Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Problem Solving

I have developed the fine art of complaining, but long ago I learned that complaining and then expecting someone to fix my problem wasn't going to work. When I had a lot of little ones and it was hard to take the little herd of cats to the grocery store, I was complaining to Kev and instead of fixing my problem, he matter-of-factly said, "So what are you going to do about it?" "Adopt them out," is what I wanted to say.

At first I was really upset that he didn't jump in and rescue me, but later (after once again engaging in my natural gift for complaining that he was so insensitive and unhelpful), I realized that complaining is really quite debilitating; and it is only when I identify a problem and then look for a solution, that I am empowered. Complaining is just frustrating and just gives away all my power to take control of my life.

I realized that Kev taught me a valuable lesson about personal empowerment. I just wish he would have worded it a little different. How about saying "Oh sweetheart, honey pumpkin pooh, I am so sorry that you are having that struggle with our little darlings. What do you think will be a solution that will make your precious life easier?" Let's face it, "So what are you going to do about it?" was a little harsh but maybe I need it harsh to really learn.

1 comment:

Lanae said...

Hahaha! Thanks for the good laugh. It is also nice to know that other husbands do it the same way as Kevin. I can always think of a better way for Marc to say things. Does it ever change? NO! I'm sure that is why there are so many relationship books out there. :D