Friday, June 29, 2012
Take for instance, the heat of summer. I don't like it when it gets too hot. I guess I had better live a good life because hell will be too hot for me.
With that said, I can either whine about the heat or I can creatively problem solve. It hit me that what I use to think of as a curse is really a blessing in disguise. If you don't want too much information, STOP READING NOW.
Okay now I know you have an inquiring mind, so... It's no secret that I am still waiting to develop into a woman and the only reason I need to wear a bra is for the padding. So, the good news is, I have discovered how much cooler it is when I don't wear a bra and just rely on my religious undergarments to be my underclothing. Nothing shows anyway. Wow, I am liberated not just as a woman but I am liberated from the heat. Couple that with a skirt and the heat is a lot easier to tolerate. Who knew!!!
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Tuesday, June 26, 2012
- Repeatedly bailing them out - of jail, financial problems, other "tight spots" they get themselves into
- Giving them "one more chance" - ...then another...and another
- Ignoring the problem - because they get defensive when you bring it up or your hope that it will magically go away
- Joining them in the behavior when you know they have a problem with it
- Joining them in blaming others - for their own feelings, problems, and misfortunes
- Accepting their justifications, excuses and rationalizations
- Avoiding problems - keeping the peace, believing a lack of conflict will help
- Doing for them what they should be able to do for themselves
- Softening or removing the natural consequences of the problem behavior
- Trying to "fix" them or their problem
- Repeatedly coming to the "Rescue"
- Trying to control them or their problem
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Monday, June 25, 2012
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Sunday, June 24, 2012
After my grandkids left and I had my relaxing moment visiting pinterest. I found a pin from a friend about this children's book. Timely. Being too impatient to wait and visit a bookstore, I downloaded it on my ipad. It is a great book with a great message. Life is a lot more fun if we aren't worried about mistakes. Teaching that to my children and grandchildren is easier if I embrace that for myself. Using a mistake as an opportunity to learn rather than a stick to beat myself with is the best way to relax and enjoy life rather than fearing a mistake. I love to learn but I don't relish being abused.
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Saturday, June 23, 2012
The bells in the movie do remind me of living in the Chi Omega house and ringing the bell at dinner to summons Chuck to serve us. Chuck was our house boy from a local fraternity. Everyone needs a house boy. Why I got married and left that set up, I will never know! (A little side note. For most of the time Chuck worked there, he had long, scraggly hair; but one day he showed up with a handsome haircut revealing how good looking he was. We started ringing the bell more often!)
Whoops, I got a little sidetracked with college memories. Seriously, I love this period piece because I enjoy being placed in another place in time and learning about history. The show also demonstrates how much we can buy into traditions that need to be questioned and possibly changed. The tradition of a male-dominate society in which daughters couldn't inherit the title and money is crazy. Even a guy to inherit an unearned title is weird. How many of our traditions that we embrace right now will seem equally bizarre in the future? Like boys wearing their pants below their butts. Wait, that already seems weird.
Posted by Tanya at 6:14 AM
Friday, June 22, 2012
Doing a google image search on the word compassion restored my faith in people and their ability to love. I saw pictures that moved me to tears and to want to act more compassionately. Because the pictures I find usually come from a blog post about that word, I have been reading some inspirational writing. There are so many good people out there that are contributing so much that is enlightening. It seems the negative and bitter people are writing hateful comments on news stories but there are amazing people writing in countless blogs, and today I was especially grateful to read about and be motivated by the compassionate people.
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Thursday, June 21, 2012
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Wednesday, June 20, 2012
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Sunday, June 17, 2012
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Saturday, June 16, 2012
We just got back from a little trip to New York City doing one of our favorite things--going to musicals. Here is a recap of what we saw with my amateur review.
I can't tell you what the second half was like because we decided to leave at intermission. I was excited to see Ricky Martin perform but the whole script was singing, which for us uncultured types, reeked a little too much of Opera. Although I would have stayed trusting that the second half was easier to stomach, one of the other people in my entourage would have committed suicide if I forced him to endure the second half, so off we went to have dessert to salvage the evening.
Now you know what kind of entertainment I gravitate to. No culture for me--just make me laugh.
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Tuesday, June 12, 2012
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Monday, June 11, 2012
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Sunday, June 10, 2012
By the way, for anyone reading this that was there when I said in my Sacrament meeting talk that I am grateful to serve in the young women's program because the girls make it a burden and not a blessing, I meant to say it is a blessing not a burden. I was just impressed the six young women that gave me a hard time about my mistake were really listening that closely.
Posted by Tanya at 8:01 PM
Saturday, June 9, 2012
I have a deep conviction that I shouldn't rely on my own understanding or judgment, but continually rely on inspiration from my Heavenly Father who is perfect and knows so much better than I. I know that "it ain't over until the fat lady sings," and so there will always be set backs and pain; but I also know that even through the pain, that life can be good. Having had my own share of pain, I now know better than ever that there is always something good that can come even from the difficulties if I am patient. I have learned lessons that I wouldn't have learned in any other way. I am grateful that I have a Savior that can make it all turn out right and continues to do so.
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Friday, June 8, 2012
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Thursday, June 7, 2012
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