Saturday, January 30, 2010

Confessions of a Control Freak

I must always remember that self-improvement is just that--working on me. The best thing I can do when there is difficulty in a relationship is ask myself, "Is it I?" (see Peter's response when Jesus told the disciples that one of them would betray him) That means that I am humble and open to my personal responsibility instead of being mad and blaming someone else. Even if I am not responsible, I will still benefit from letting other people own their problems. It means I keep my focus on what I can control and give up trying to fix or control someone else. I can simply love and support, but not control. There is nothing more depressing than trying to control something I have no control over. Darn it, why didn't I vote for Satan's plan? Kidding, I know it is wrong but sometimes I just want to save someone from their own destructive choices. Back to work on my own self-improvement.

1 comment:

yvonne said...

i think it's partly the mother in us that wants to make sure others don't do the wrong thing so they won't have to suffer. but i think you're right...letting go is a good thing. maybe a mother's role is to be a support net when those around us fall. actually that's all of our role. anyway self improvement always is so much harder than fixing others!